guess who looked so fucking gay at a small concert thing
okay i stumbled upon old sound recordings of satellites in the stratosphere
and so i decided text to speech robots were appropriate for a contrasting love story-ish thing
Anonymous asked: LOVE your nose
thanks it was expensive
(no it wasn’t)
buy yourself an iconic item that shimmers with masculinity/femininity. preferably something timeless that looks intensely cool and suits you really well.
whenever you need an extra boost for something extra tough, wear the thing and feel it as a shield.
i have a yellow bomber leather jacket from a vintage shop that’s way too big, but whenever i put it on i feel like the jacket is rubbing masculinity off on me.
so wear the item when you have to come out to people who are extra hard to come out to, or when you have to look harsh people in the eye, or when you just really don’t have any motivation to get up.
just like your gender is a mental thing, your body is yours to interpret as you like.
if you’re dysphoric about having breasts and unable to get a top-op in the nearest future, stop calling it breasts.
for me, breasts are something a cis girl has (along with trans women ofc). i don’t. i have a chest. i have a different chest than most men, yes, but it’s a chest. some men have three nipples. my chest takes up a bit more space on my torso. that’s bodies.
don’t tell yourself (or others) you’re trapped in the wrong body, because you’ll never get out of your body and you’ll be telling your dysphoria you’re born wrong and you’ll never be able to change that.
say you’re born in another body. “i was born in another kind of body than cis people.” an alternative take on your gender identity. you can change this ‘another kind of body’ as you like, but your body is not wrong.
you’re just as much male/female/other as anyone else, and you deserve to know this.
Anonymous asked: hey uh what advice would u give on coming out as trans to parents/in the workplace/at school ?? i mean i know thats a lot to ask but i feel lost and really dont know how to go about this stuff
omg don’t worry i’ll do my best
i can’t really give you advice, but i can tell you what i did and my thoughts about it.
i’ve been very confused about my identity for many years (as the long-term followers of this blog will remember) and i’ve told them i was everything from a lesbian to genderqueer.
it never lasted, though, and i suppose it was mainly just testing it out and see if it felt comfortable.
this, however, meant that when i was to tell them there was a fairly good chance they wouldn’t take it so seriously.
it’s important to mention that my parents are the most accepting and open-hearted people i know. so i was off to a pretty good start.
i think the tipping point was that i showed them exactly how much dysphoria bothered me and how much i struggled with it. my instinct tells me to hide it away and be cool and clear about the explanation, but that’s really not gonna do anything good in a situation like this.
i feel workplace is pretty weird because it’s very likely they’ll see it as a conversation about genitals. and that’s not appropriate in a workplace.
i spent like four months trying to just go cis and see how long it lasted, but i was starting hormones and dysphoria, so i had to do it.
i ended up sending out a group email along these lines:
this is a short notice to tell that i’m transgender and i now identify as a boy.
from now on, i’m isaac and he/his. i know it’s a bit inconvenient to learn a new name, but it really means a lot to me and i’m very patient.
i’m gonna start male hormones in january (it was november at the time) and that means my voice is gonna get deeper and such. it also means i have to see a doctor quite often in the first month.
thank you all.
and i was so fucking nervous and shook but like within the next hour i just received like happy emails from everyone saying i was cool and stuff. nothing transphobic.
bear in mind that we were only eight daily employees, but we had consulents and teachers running in and out of the place. i never came out to them, they just sort of understood that i was no longer amanda and started calling me isaac too.
c. about school
i can’t really say anything here. i’m currently going stealth, and i find young people are more accepting, but also much more likely to ask rude/inappropriate questions. i refuse to have my gender identity thrown around between lunch tables like a good story, so i don’t tell them. yet. i might be open later on, but for now, i’m just isaac. super, super feminine isaac.
i have a life with thousands of acquaintances and friends of friends and you know, people you meet a few times a year. the most incredible thing was that if you’re in a group of people where 9/10 know you’re trans or even just 7/10, no one screams “OMG WHAT” when someone calls me isaac. they just go with the flow because they don’t wanna be the idiot asking me if i’m a girl.
i tried film
Anonymous asked: hi Im a boy and Im trans, so Im choosing a name for myself. I chose Lucas but I just cant adapt to it yet, it seens like an empty name. could you please right a short little story about a boy named Lucas so I can like this name more? and please not make him trans. if it helps my personality is like Peter Pan's but without being cocky and mean
honestly if lucas feels empty to you, there’s two approaches. either you choose a new name that means more to you, or you decide to fill it in with your own meaning.
i wanted to write you a story, but i feel it’s the wrong thing to do as a name is a super-personal thing and identity shouldn’t be shaped by anyone but yourself.
and if the problem here is that you chose one name and came out as that but changed your mind, get a new one. say you’ve been out for a year - people have gotten used to it and call you this on a daily basis, so it’s awkward to change now. but if you’re living with this name for sixty years, i suggest it’s better to seem awkward now and get a perfect one.
i suggest babynames.com. or maybe just peter. like you said.
i hope this doesn’t sound like i’m insulting you, but names mean a lot to me and i really think it’s hard to choose so i think it’s good for several opinions on the process